Archive for November 2007

Fridays Feast

November 30, 2007

Appetizer
What is your favorite carnival/amusement park ride?

When I was younger, The Umbrellas was the only ride I enjoyed. Nowadays, you’d be lucky to find me riding in a Teacup with the children 

Soup
How do you react in uncomfortable social situations?

I don’t come across many, although when I was in England in the Summer, I had to take Spud to Casualty with a possible broken finger. While we were waiting, a man pulled down his trousers in front of eveyone in the waiting room. Shortly after that a man was brought in wearing handcuffs and then two drunken men staggered in drinking beer. One had a black eye. I was shaking like a leaf. Petrified. I had all four children with me and Chef was in Ireland!

Salad
On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being highest, how much do you enjoy discussing deep, philosophical topics?

 6 ~ I’m recently beginning to wonder whether God really exists (in a positive way) I’d love a chat to someone about Him, not too heavy, though! Maybe I need Him back in my life? Anyone?

Main Course
Did you get a flu shot this year? If not, do you plan to?

 No, and I’m suffering with a heavy cold and sore throat right now

Dessert
Approximately how many hours per week do you spend watching television?

 I watch snippets of ‘I’m a Celebrity’ and back-to-back cookery programmes. on UKTV Food. Rick Stein, Barefoot Contessa, Market Kitchen etc. while I do the ironing. It’s the only way to get through it!

Have great weekend…

                         

Time for some hard work

November 29, 2007

  Nic  at La Familia Meyer has inspired me to sort out the mess in my front garden. I love gardening, as a couple of you already know, but look what’s happened in the last few months.

 

 

I’ve really neglected it by keeping on top of the housework!

 

 

Check out the weeds…

 

 

Looks like I have my work cut out this weekend, maybe I could bribe the children! Wink Emoticons (4306)

On a lighter note….

November 28, 2007

A Texan walks into a pub in Ireland and clears his voice to the crowd of drinkers. He says, “I hear you Irish are a bunch of hard drinkers. I’ll give $500 American dollars to anybody in here who can drink 10 pints of Guinness back-to-back.”

The room is quiet, and no one takes up the Texan’s offer. One man even leaves.

Thirty minutes later the same gentleman who left shows back up and taps the Texan on the shoulder. “Is your bet still good?” asks the Irishman.

The Texan says yes and asks the bartender to line up 10 pints of Guinness. Immediately the Irishman tears into all 10 of the pint glasses, drinking them all back-to-back.

The other pub patrons cheer as the Texan sits in amazement. The Texan gives the Irishman the $500 and says, “If ya don’t mind me askin’, where did you go for that 30 minutes you were gone?”

The Irishman replies, “Oh… I had to go to the pub down the street to see if I could do it first.”

When someone you love tries to hurt themselves

November 25, 2007

by Anna Allen

I just love this article and feel exactly the same way as Ms Allen…… 

Has someone you love tried to hurt themselves by committing suicide? If so, how did it make you feel? I ask these questions because I can relate to them.

You see, my brother attempted suicide recently.

The whole ordeal really affected me. I was an emotional wreck. I had feelings of guilt and kept asking myself, ‘what could I have done to prevent this?’ Maybe I could have spent more time with him instead of being so wrapped up in my life. Maybe I could have been more alert and paid more attention to the signs. Maybe I could have done a little more to help him.

I was beating myself up playing the ‘Maybe I could have’ game.

I thank God everyday that my brother’s suicide attempted failed. He’s getting the help he needs and we’re spending a lot more time together. Things are getting a lot better. He’s smiling and laughing again. He’s on the road to recovery.

So why am I writing about something so personal and private in my life? Well, if my story helps just one person, it will all be worth it. You see, we were lucky, but unfortunately many are not. Hopefully with this article, it will help you recognize the warning signs or help you understand and deal with your feelings.

First of all, what are the possible suicide warning signs to look for?

* Talk of suicide (even in a joking manner)

* Isolation

* Recent loss (divorce, death, job, religious faith, separation, etc.)

* Previous suicide attempt

* Change in personality or behavior

* Change in sleep or eating patterns

* Sexual problems (impotence, erectile dysfunction)

* Low self esteem

* No hope for the future

* Substance abuse

* Giving away favorite belongings

* Making arrangements for pets

* Making out a will

* Giving up on life

So, let’s ask ourselves, ‘Why do people give up on life?’ Well, I’m a firm believer in the fact that many of those who take their lives do not want to die as much as they want to ‘end whatever is going on.’ They want the pain to stop.

Although the reasons why people commit suicide can vary, certain events in life can also trigger suicide. Some of these could be:

* Family or relationship problems

* Financial or work-related problems

* Retirement or physical illness, especially in elderly people.

* Loneliness

* Rejection

Another triggering factor of suicide (and probably the most common) has nothing to do with anything on a social level, such as a job or relationship. That triggering factor has to do with a person’s brain chemistry, which, in turn, causes Depression.

Depression is one of the leading causes of suicide. The thing to remember is, Depression can be treated successfully. Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness can be reversed.

Millions of people everyday cope with the problems and stresses of this world, so that nothing new. It’s the way a person’s mind and heart react to the pressures that lead some to kill themselves. So when the underlying factors are dealt with, many people react differently to the problems and stresses that can trigger suicide.

It’s important to realize that suicide is a ‘permanent solution to a temporary problem.’ One expert described it by saying, ‘Committing suicide is like treating a cold with a nuclear bomb.’ Suicide is never justified.

I feel I have to mention the fact that sometimes it’s only easy to recognize signs of suicidal feelings after the fact. The present is a different story. Many times this is because it’s almost impossible to know what another person is thinking and feeling. We’re not mind readers and it doesn’t help when many suicidal people just don’t open up and talk about their innermost feelings to others, even to close family and friends.

That was the case with my brother. He is a very quiet person who rarely spoke of his problems or things that bothered him.

So how can family, friends or others help?

Well, first of all remember that all suicide attempts should be treated seriously. There is no room for error. Studies have shown that ’20-30% of people who attempted suicide will repeat their attempt with a year.’ The study goes on to show that ‘more than 50% of suicides (in the United States) occur in people who have had no contact with a mental health professional.’ So as mentioned earlier, there is help available. Your condition can be helped. No situation is hopeless.

Another way that family and friends can help is to remember that sometimes an attempted suicide is a cry for help. So naturally family members and friends want to do and say the right thing to the one who has lost hope. One of the main things to remember is not to patronize them. They know what they did and why they did it, so they don’t need to be babied.

Also, it will not help to use expressions like: ‘Get over it,’ ‘A lot of people are worse off than you,’ ‘Stop feeling sorry for yourself’ and ‘Snap out of it.’ Instead, try to be there for them. Be a good listener and listen to whatever they have to say. Be a real friend to them. Stress to them that even though you cannot fully understand how bad they feel, the experience of others is proof things will get better.

In the case of my brother, my family all gathered together and discussed how we’d go about helping him. We made time for him and showed him how much we loved him. Don’t get me wrong, there were mistakes along the way. There were some that patronized him and treated him like a porcelain doll. Some seemed to be walking around on egg shells around him. He didn’t need that. My brother told me how bad that made him feel. That’s how I knew what to write in this article.

All this experience has brought my brother and I closer than ever. I thank God he is getting well.

The best advice I can give anyone out there who has gone through anything similar to my experience is to try to help their loved one by showing them that life, which should be their most prized possession, is worth living.

In conclusion, if Someone You Love Tries to Hurt Themselves, remember, it’s not your fault. Stop beating yourself or blaming yourself. Get them the help they need. Be there for them. Don’t patronize them. Show them you care.

I hope I was able to help you by relating my personal and private experience.

Good luck to you all,

Anna

Family comes first

November 20, 2007

You may be thinking my blog is quiet. Well, I haven’t been posting as much as usual. 

   You see, my brother is very sick and he’s been on my mind for a couple of weeks now and I’ve just not wanted to post. He’s in hospital in England.  I’m going to see him tomorrow and staying with one of my sisters in Brighton. Hopefully, on my return, I’ll be back to normal, posting regularly and putting the smiles back on your faces.

 Please say a little prayer that ‘Lambsie’ gets well very soon….

Thankyou xx

 

Fridays Feast 169

November 16, 2007

Appetizer
What was your first “real” job?

Hairdressing, although I trained in barwork and silver-service waitressing part-time, too

Soup
Where would you go if you wanted to spark your creativity?

Right here!

Salad
Complete this sentence: I am embarrassed when…

I leave the house undressed

Main Course
What values did your parents instill in you?

Honesty and hard work

Dessert
Name 3 fads from your teenage years.

Rubiks cube, punk rock and erm….that’s all I can remember!

 

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Fridays Feast 168

November 9, 2007

Appetizer
Which snack do you like to get when you go to the movies?

I dont go to the movies!

Soup
What year did you start using the internet?

2006

Salad
What is your first name in Pig Latin? (Here’s how to speak it if you don’t already know!)

 I’ll have to look at this again….

Main Course
Name something you are picky about.

Litter and spelling

Dessert
Fill in the blanks: I ____ ____ yesterday and I ____ ____ today.

I kissed Chef yesterday and I kissed him today.

Witty Wednesday (my 5th)

November 6, 2007

 

 A young Dublin man told his doctor that he could no longer do as much around the house as he used to. His wife was heavily into tennis and seemed to be around less frequently. He didn’t have the energy for any chores.

The doctor gave him a thorough examination and at the end the guy said: “OK, doc, I can take it. Tell me in plain English, what’s wrong with me?”

“Well” said the doctor, “in plain English, you’re just lazy”

“OK” said the guy “now give me the medical term so I can tell my wife”

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Fun Monday

November 5, 2007

The Humble Housewife is not only humble, she’s very brave. I’m not sure if I could host this ever increasing popular bloggy thingy. I’ve far too much to do!

There’s only one family tradition here, that’s that the Christmas Tree goes up on my birthday, December 5th (start posting America!)  I get excited when I think about Christmas, but I actually HATE decorating the tree. The reason? Chef is very critical of how it should look. He thinks it should be totally covered without a bit of green in sight. The lights should fill the tree, too. I  think less is more. Guess who wins…

Here’s a couple of pics from the last few years..

A very special photograph here. Bossy asked Santa for a gold dress that year…

I couldn’t find one anywhere, so my Mum made it. Bossy designed the dress she was dreaming about on a scrap of paper, sent it to Father Christmas and Grandma put it all together…Miss you, Mum

Menu Planner Monday

November 4, 2007

Easy week for me this week. I’ve been working on my other blog,  ‘A Plaice For Everything’ and experimenting somewhat. So here’s my lazy menu…

Monday~Chicken Tenders, oven chips and peas for the children, chicken curry for us

Tuesday~ Fillet steak, mashed potatoes and veg for all

Wednesday~Cabbage and Pork Soup with crusty bread

Thursday~Chicken Kiev and vegetable rice

Friday~ The Chipper

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