I need some advice on something which is becoming a big problem for me. I’ll start from the beginning…
When I first moved to this town, I didn’t know a soul. I introduced myself the the girl next door straight away and we have got on well ever since. Until now. ‘Sally’ really doesn’t have much of a social life, she isn’t a socially minded person. She likes to be either at home or close to home. Now, I know she has no other friends at all, I’ve been told. She finds it hard to make friends, I think she feels awkward in other peoples company. In a one-to-one situation, she’s okay. I’m not sure if there’s an underlying problem here?
But she’s also a very lazy person. Her husband works full-time and also goes to college on Wednesday evenings. He does all the housework at the weekends as she sits in the lounge watching T.V.with their children, two little girls ages 2 and three. She openly admits to being lazy, she tells me she literally does nothing at home. I know! I’ve seen it. (Bear with me, I’m getting it all off my chest.)…The problem I have is that she calls into my house once or twice a week when it is very inconvenient, like clockwork and has done for over three years now. At first, I welcomed her into my kitchen for coffee and a chat. But now we only talk about very simple things as you can imagine, so conversation can be somewhat boring and strained.
Sally arrives when my girls are doing their homework and I’m either making tea, ironing, mopping floors….. I stop.
When we try to talk, the children are asking me for help or want something to eat or drink. Spud wants my attention, too. He’s three and wants 100% of me! Sally will talk over the children when they are talking to me, I find it so irritating. My children know not to talk over grown ups! Her own child, the 2yr old will be opening and closing the kitchen door over and over again. The 3yr old annoys the *ell out of Spud. Sally says nothing (so do I)
Chef then comes home and my home looks like I’ve done nothing all day, either! I could tell you more, but I’m afraid you’ll fall asleep.
What would you do? It’s really getting me down now. If she didn’t live next door, it wouldn’t be such a big deal…